GIRL FAILURE

"in march had gotten into two top 20 medical schools, one in chicago and one in new york city. at the time was long distance with my boyfriend of 5 years, who told me that we would break up if i went to medical school in chicago, because he lives in new york and wouldn't want to be long distance anymore. i chose the medical school in nyc and the whole time he has been in nyc he has been subletting (2years -- think moving every 3 months) so we decide to move in together for cheaper rent and stable housing.  it was stressful but by august things have settle and we are trying to find a routine. then in september he blows me off to go party with his coworkers (friday night) and just has been really distant and hard to engage with. i try that night to tell him its hurtful and then he goes yea actually i dont even know if i want to be with you. enter weekend from hell where he spends all weekend going back and forth on whether or not he wants to be with me. we try to talk about but he also goes on 3 hour walks by himself, and to someone's housewarming party leaving me behind (saturday night). sunday morning he writes me a letter about how he has a crush on his coworker and they just get each other so much and can talk about books (he works in book publishing) and im just a big dumb dumb that doesn't get it (medical student). he takes another 3 hour walk and then sunday night he says he still loves me and wants to work on it. we spend a sad week trying to talk and me saying that we should both do therapy and work on this and try to see why he feels so tense and unhappy, about maybe texting his crush less, yadda yaddda. we plan a date for friday night (because he has plans to go hang out with the coworkers all day saturday -- including his crush -- which i'm not invited to go to) , when we get back to our apartment he breaks up with me because not texting his crush for less than 24 hours felt like "ignoring someone he cares about" (but never speaking again to his girlfriend of 5.5 years is obviously not someone he cares about so easy to ignore). he then proceeds to want to live together for a full month to find a place to live, i gave him 2 weeks to gtfo. he doesn't do any movement on moving out after 4 days, i have to text his mom for him to get started. he takes his sweeeeeeeet time. cherry on top is that in feb 2026 im still receiving mail from his workplace at the apartment !" - anonymous